12 Lessons Learned During My 21 Week Relaxer Stretch

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12 Lessons Learned During My 21 Week Relaxer Stretch

1. Do everything with a patient attitude

If I’ve learned anything during this stretch, it’s that rushing through anything will do more harm than good (a lesson also applies to life in generally really).

2. Detangling is always in my best interest

Always. Seriously. If I skip one week of detangling, matted hair is in my immediate future. It’s as if my hair rebels against me and my coil-y new growth just decides to fuse together in little groups around my head.

I essentially detangle two, maybe three times during the week: (1) I finger comb my hair prior to shampooing to remove any shed hairs; (2) with a seamless comb on my wash days (after applying leave-in conditioner & serum); and (3) finger comb my hair as it air dries on days I do my mid-week deep conditioning session/co-wash.

3. Work in small section at all times

When detangling, shampooing, conditioning, moisturizing, I work in nothing short of 6 sections. By working in smaller sections, I’m able to both apply product evenly to my hair while preventing excess breakage that I get when i work in larger sections.

4. Moisture is my friend

My very best friend. Deep conditioning twice a week and moisturizing the length of my hair nightly helps keep my hair soft and manageable. Dry hair is a cry for help before breakage moves in.

5. Never detangle dry hair

Whether I use oil (ok ok, hair is still dry underneath the oil, but for the sake of this bullet point, let’s pretend it’s not lol), conditioner, leave-in conditioner or my homemade marshmallow root detangling spray, my always needs a little “something” before I detangle – whether it’s with a comb or solely my fingers.

6. Protein is a necessity, not a luxury

When stretching relaxers, the line of demarcation – the area between relaxed hair and unprocessed new growth – becomes the weakest part of our hair. While keeping our hair moisturized is necessary to help maintain hair’s elasticity, protein is also essential to help strengthen our hair against breakage.

7. Just leave my hair alone

While texlaxing has substantially thickened up my hair, my strands are still fine and thrive when I simply leave them alone.

8. My steamer loves me, and I love it

So what if it’s an inanimate object. Those clouds of hot steam signal love vibes.

9. Trim my darn nails

Chipped nails or chipped polish are beyond annoying when you finger comb 95% of the time. While my hair isn’t the number one reason I keep my nails short and neat, it helps avoid broken strands

10. Keeping new growth stretched is a wonderful thing. Stretched new growth = less tangly new growth.

11. My texlaxed hair has made it easier to stretch my relaxer

When I relaxed my hair bone straight, the difference in textures was much more glaring. Back in the day you’d see pin straight hair and then a little pillow of new growth that was always dry and tangling because during my relaxed bone straight days I hadn’t realized how importance it was to keep my new growth moisturized. I used to be a focus-only-on-the-length kinda gal. Nowadays, I don’t get much breakage between the line of demarcation between my texlaxed hair and new growth and it’s easier to blend the two textures.

12. Do everything with a patient attitude

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