Relaxed Hair Regimen & Staple Products

Hi all! As you may have noticed, I've transitioned to natural so my regimen has changed a bit. I'll still be blogging about relaxed hair care so this page of course will remain right where it is. To make it easier to navigate, I have created separate regimen pages for relaxed and natural hair. The regimen + staples for my natural hair is posted here.



I used to self-relax my hair ever 10-12 weeks with ORS Relaxer, lye, normal strength. The video of how I self-relaxed my hair is posted here.

Click here to read and view pictures of all my relaxer touch ups

Wash Days

I washed my relaxed hair every weekend. I posted about every wash day, both products and process. You can find my wash day rcaps in my wash day posts. The video of my normal wash day can be found here.

Here are the steps I followed for my relaxer wash days:

[1] Pre-poo (pre-shampoo treatment) by doing a hot oil treatment or using conditioner for at least 30 minutes or use my homemade detangler.

[2] Co-wash or use a clarifying shampoo when necessary to remove product build up.

[3] Tea rinse/coffee rinse OR protein treatment.

[4] Deep condition with my heat cap or steamer for minimum 30 minutes.

[5] Apply leave in conditioner, then serum.

[6] Detangle.

9 times out of 10 I stretched my hair using the tension method and cold air, but I usually did a flexi rod set, roller set or air dry with scarf.


Maintenance and Styling

I wore my relaxed hair in protective styles 90% of the time (i.e. buns, faux bob)

When wearing my hair down, I applied a little Organix Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage to my ends to strengthen them against breakage (when rubbing against my clothing).

At night, I moisturized and sealed with grapseed oil. Then crossed wrap or loosely bunned my hair, and covered with silk or satin scarf. Click here for how I cross wrap my hair.

I did not comb through my hair during the week, and detangled with a comb only on wash days. When co-washing, I lightly detangled with my fingers.

I trimmed minimum .5" off after every touch up (or every time I straighten my hair ever 3-4 months)

To smooth my edges I used either aloe vera gel or Eco Styler Gel (Krystal) and a silk scarf to smooth out and tame my edges.

Staple Products

Serums & Heat Protectants

Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum
Organix Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage Serum
CHI 44 Iron Guard (heat protectant)
Redken Smooth Down Heat Glide (discontinued)

Co-washing Conditioners

Aussie Moist 3 Minute Miracle
As I Am Coconut CoWash Cleansing Conditioner


Grapeseed oil (my numero uno sealing oil)
Safflower oil
Hempseed oil
Coconut oil
Essential oils: eucalyptus, lavender, tea tree


Coffee (normally Folgers Instant)
Green tea
Black tea
Peppermint tea
Marshmallow root
Burdock root


Aloe Vera Gel or Eco Styler Gel


  1. hi Jen, ok so i have a ridculously soft hair. almost as soft as a cotton wool and i havent retouched my hair in 7 months and my hair has really cut off. how do u prupose i take care of it. do i retouch first or do i need to cut off the relaxed part of my hair. cos the hair looks really damaged, and also what can i apply to my edges they have cut of cos of fixing.

  2. Hi Jen! Thanks for this wonderful blog. Love it. I have a question: do you do the LOCS method? Liquid,Oil, Cream, Seal.

  3. Hi Jen! I was just wondering how often you update your staple product listing. I want to order some of the products youve listed, but noticed in your recent wash posts that you have switched some products up a bit.

  4. one tiny question: when you bought the safari print croc clips was the price for 1 or all 4 clips?

    1. Author

      They were a gift but came in a pack, so most likely the price was for all four as one pack.

  5. Jen, your blog is amazing and I am waiting eagerly for your paper version of journal to purchase it.

    I have hair just a bit longer than an afro.
    Very fine Kinky hair that tangles.
    Still have not found a solution for single knot strands (enemy for life!).

    2 Questions on your regimen:

    -What difference you you make between 1- a MOISTURIZER, 2- a LEAVE IN, 3- And the SMOOTHING CONDITIONER.

    I have not finished reading every page of your blog. That's my carrot at the end of the work day! Page by page.

    But do you LAYER all of these products on top of each other?

    I am ordering these products soon…but will not know how to use it without your advice.

    1. Author

      Hi there, no I don't layer them. I only use a smoothing conditioner and then rinse it out before or after deep conditioning. some moisturizers can be used as leave-ins and vice versa. The "when to use" depends on a couple factors: how much the leave-in weighs hair down, which would not make to deal as a moisturizer. Whether it's a protein leave-in, which takes it out of the running as a moisturizer. Check out my section for moisturizers under the "Product Review" tab. I list a couple moisturizers that can also be used as leave-ins.

  6. Thank you for the new update. I love your blog. It helped me a lot with my hair journey.

  7. Hey jen love love your blog its so fun and informative ive learned so much so thanks!! I see tou are a fan of the paul Michael products i am thinking avout trying it! I didnt find any in walmart but they have Biolage by Matrix SmoothTherapie Deep Smoothing Conditioner have you ever heard of it or used it? Im not sure which to purxhase now haha

  8. Do you detangle before washing and more importantly do u wash ur hair back or forward. I fine washing it over the tub (forward) is easier than getting into the shower 2ce. The only problem is that it always leaves my hair with some knots.

    1. Author

      I wash my hair while standing in the shower. I finger comb my hair a bit before washing and detangling only after I've applied my leave ins and let my hair dry a bit.

  9. hey Jen! i was just wondering at night time do you wrap your hair everynight orr what do you do?? thanks!

    1. Author

      Hi there, I either cross wrap or bun my hair at night.

  10. Hey.My neck used to be neck length but then ever since I opened my world up to Flat-Iron my hair became super damaged.Now I just started my hair regimen with ear length hair.I used to straighten hair single day but now I've stopped to only once a week or whenever I wash my hair which is less than 2 weeks. How often do you straighten your hair?

  11. Hi! i just started on my hair journey and i also just found out about your blog and i think it's amazing! so knowledgeable! I wanted to know just one thing and it's if you don't use normal conditioners after you shampoo or your protein treatment. Do you just deep condition?

    1. Author

      Hi there, thank you! The only non-deep conditioning conditioner I use after shampooing is Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Daily Treatment to smooth out my hair – apply for few mins, then rinse. And then I follow up with a deep conditioner.

  12. Hello; thanks so much for this blog! One of my concerns is how to safely rinse out the relaxer without damaging my eyes or skin. Any suggestions for rinsing it out, and do you rinse in the sink or shower? Thanks for your help.

    1. Author

      Hi anon, I rinse out in the shower. When rinsing out the back, I arch backwards towards the showerhead. When rinsing out the sides I turn towards the side and arch again towards the showerhead. The water and relaxer runoff flows downwards, avoiding my body and face. Hope that makes sense. I hope to have a post with visuals up soon.

  13. Hello!!! Do you still use the GNC Ultra Nourish Hair vitamins….

  14. I enjoy that you have all this awesome information on your blog! What do you use for an itchy scalp. I can get the moisturize thing down okay, but even still with new growth or if I slack off, my head is sooo itchy. What oil/ leave in would you suggest to combat that?

  15. Thanks for posting this information about grapeseed oil. I'm curious if you've used olive oil on your hair in the past how this oil compares. Thank you!

    1. Author

      My pleasure. I used olive oil a few times in at the beginning of my HHJ in 2009 and haven't used it since. I didn't like how it made my hair feel so I stopped using it soon after I started and haven't revisited.

  16. Hi Jenni…im new to the online hair blog community. I just wanted to know what your hair type is? Thanx 🙂 Love ur Blog. xoxo.

    1. Author

      Hi there and thank you! My hair is 4a/b, fine strands.

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