Relaxed Hair Regimen & Staple Products

Last updated 9/6/15


Hi all! As you may have noticed, I’ve transitioned to natural so my regimen has changed a bit. I’ll still be blogging about relaxed hair care so this page of course will remain right where it is. To make it easier to navigate, I have re-titled it “Relaxed Hair Regimen” and will create a separate page for my natural regimen. Thank you for reading, following, and commenting!

Wash DaysI wash my hair every weekend. I post about every wash day, both products and process, check out my wash day posts.

  1. Pre-poo (pre-shampoo treatment) by doing a hot oil treatment or using conditioner for at least 30 minutes or use my homemade detangler.
  2. Co-wash or use a clarifying shampoo when necessary to remove product build up.
  3. Tea rinse/coffee rinse OR protein treatment.
  4. Deep condition with my heat cap or steamer for minimum 30 minutes.
  5. Apply leave in conditioner, then serum.
  6. Detangle.
  7. 9 times out of 10 I stretch my hair using the tension method and cold air, but I made do a flexi rod set, roller set or air dry with scarf.

Relaxers (as of April, 2014, I am currently transitioning to natural)

Maintenance and Styling

  • Protective styles 90% of the time (i.e. buns, faux bob)
  • I apply a little Organix Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage to my ends when wearing my hair down.
  • At night, I moisturize and seal with oil. Then cross wrap or loosely bun, and cover with silk or satin scarf. Click here for how I cross wrap my hair.
  • I do not comb through my hair during the week, and detangle with a comb only on wash day. When co-washing, I lightly detangle with my fingers.
  • I trim minimum .5″ off after every touch up (or every time I straighten my hair ever 3-4 months)
  • Smooth edges: I use either aloe vera gel or Eco Styler Gel (Krystal) and a silk scarf to smooth out and tame my edges.

Vitamins (taken daily)

  • One-A-Day Women’s Multivitamin

Staple Products

Click the links for my review or click here to view all my reviews.

Relaxer: ORS Relaxer, lye formula, normal strength

Shampoos/Cleansing Conditioners:

Deep Conditioners:

Moisturizers & Leave-In Conditioners:

Serums & Heat Protectants: 

Protein & Smoothing Conditioners:

Co-washing Conditioners


  • Grapeseed oil (my numero uno sealing oil)
  • Safflower oil
  • Hempseed oil
  • Coconut oil
  • Essential oils: eucalyptus, lavender, tea tree


  • Coffee (normally Folgers Instant)
  • Green tea
  • Black tea
  • Peppermint tea
  • Marshmallow root
  • Burdock root
  • Hibiscus

Gels: Aloe Vera Gel or Eco Styler Gel Widgets

165 thoughts on “Relaxed Hair Regimen & Staple Products

  1. Anonymous

    Hi Jenni…im new to the online hair blog community. I just wanted to know what your hair type is? Thanx :) Love ur Blog. xoxo.

  2. Kiyahp

    Thanks for posting this information about grapeseed oil. I'm curious if you've used olive oil on your hair in the past how this oil compares. Thank you!

    1. Jen Post author

      My pleasure. I used olive oil a few times in at the beginning of my HHJ in 2009 and haven't used it since. I didn't like how it made my hair feel so I stopped using it soon after I started and haven't revisited.

  3. Anonymous

    I enjoy that you have all this awesome information on your blog! What do you use for an itchy scalp. I can get the moisturize thing down okay, but even still with new growth or if I slack off, my head is sooo itchy. What oil/ leave in would you suggest to combat that?

  4. Anonymous

    Hello; thanks so much for this blog! One of my concerns is how to safely rinse out the relaxer without damaging my eyes or skin. Any suggestions for rinsing it out, and do you rinse in the sink or shower? Thanks for your help.

    1. Jen Post author

      Hi anon, I rinse out in the shower. When rinsing out the back, I arch backwards towards the showerhead. When rinsing out the sides I turn towards the side and arch again towards the showerhead. The water and relaxer runoff flows downwards, avoiding my body and face. Hope that makes sense. I hope to have a post with visuals up soon.

  5. Reina M

    Hi! i just started on my hair journey and i also just found out about your blog and i think it's amazing! so knowledgeable! I wanted to know just one thing and it's if you don't use normal conditioners after you shampoo or your protein treatment. Do you just deep condition?

    1. Jen Post author

      Hi there, thank you! The only non-deep conditioning conditioner I use after shampooing is Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Daily Treatment to smooth out my hair – apply for few mins, then rinse. And then I follow up with a deep conditioner.

  6. Denesha

    Hey.My neck used to be neck length but then ever since I opened my world up to Flat-Iron my hair became super damaged.Now I just started my hair regimen with ear length hair.I used to straighten hair single day but now I've stopped to only once a week or whenever I wash my hair which is less than 2 weeks. How often do you straighten your hair?

  7. Anonymous

    hey Jen! i was just wondering at night time do you wrap your hair everynight orr what do you do?? thanks!

  8. Jadesola Oshisanya

    Do you detangle before washing and more importantly do u wash ur hair back or forward. I fine washing it over the tub (forward) is easier than getting into the shower 2ce. The only problem is that it always leaves my hair with some knots.

    1. Jen Post author

      I wash my hair while standing in the shower. I finger comb my hair a bit before washing and detangling only after I've applied my leave ins and let my hair dry a bit.

  9. Anonymous

    Hey jen love love your blog its so fun and informative ive learned so much so thanks!! I see tou are a fan of the paul Michael products i am thinking avout trying it! I didnt find any in walmart but they have Biolage by Matrix SmoothTherapie Deep Smoothing Conditioner have you ever heard of it or used it? Im not sure which to purxhase now haha

  10. Anonymous

    Jen, your blog is amazing and I am waiting eagerly for your paper version of journal to purchase it.

    I have hair just a bit longer than an afro.
    Very fine Kinky hair that tangles.
    Still have not found a solution for single knot strands (enemy for life!).

    2 Questions on your regimen:

    -What difference you you make between 1- a MOISTURIZER, 2- a LEAVE IN, 3- And the SMOOTHING CONDITIONER.

    I have not finished reading every page of your blog. That's my carrot at the end of the work day! Page by page.

    But do you LAYER all of these products on top of each other?

    I am ordering these products soon…but will not know how to use it without your advice.

    1. Jen Post author

      Hi there, no I don't layer them. I only use a smoothing conditioner and then rinse it out before or after deep conditioning. some moisturizers can be used as leave-ins and vice versa. The "when to use" depends on a couple factors: how much the leave-in weighs hair down, which would not make to deal as a moisturizer. Whether it's a protein leave-in, which takes it out of the running as a moisturizer. Check out my section for moisturizers under the "Product Review" tab. I list a couple moisturizers that can also be used as leave-ins.

  11. Gracita

    one tiny question: when you bought the safari print croc clips was the price for 1 or all 4 clips?

  12. From the Inside Out

    Hi Jen! I was just wondering how often you update your staple product listing. I want to order some of the products youve listed, but noticed in your recent wash posts that you have switched some products up a bit.

  13. famuyide ibukunoluwa

    hi Jen, ok so i have a ridculously soft hair. almost as soft as a cotton wool and i havent retouched my hair in 7 months and my hair has really cut off. how do u prupose i take care of it. do i retouch first or do i need to cut off the relaxed part of my hair. cos the hair looks really damaged, and also what can i apply to my edges they have cut of cos of fixing.