Hair Story Feature: Meet Tonkabelle

TonkabelleYour hair is? Relaxed

When did you start your hair journey? What inspired you?

I started taking care of my hair properly when I traveled for a Masters Degree in the UK and my hair became a shadow of its former self. Whilst I was over there I would just get a weave done and leave my hair alone without applying anything to it. As this was what I used to do back home in Nigeria and my hair always seemed to do ok. However over there, the different seasons took a toll on my hair. As a result, when I took the weave out, my hair had completely broken off and I started looking for ways to improve its health. When I went home for the holidays I contacted my grandmother because I recalled that she used some herbs for her hair and she had always had long hair and she helped me out teaching me step by step on what I was to do. Within a short period of time my hair even surpassed how it used to be. A lot of people would ask me how I got my hair to grow and I decided that I could actually sell my grandmother’s recipes. I named it Wura’s Secret after my grandmother and also in my language it is said that iya ni wura meaning a mother is gold (wura). I also started doing a lot of research on black hair and found out that black hair can actually grow to amazing lengths.

Describe your hair for us.

I have type 4c hair, it is grazing APL now (after a recent cut), it has high porosity and thick strands.

What is your current regimen?

Shampoo my hair every week or every two weeks. I use a clarifying shampoo once a month. I deep condition every week or every two weeks after shampooing. After deep conditioning, I apply my leave in conditioners and seal my hair. I moisturize and seal my hair every day. I also oil my scalp daily, giving myself a light massage as I go along. I get my hair texlaxed between 12 to 14 weeks depending on how my hair feels during that particular stretch.

My shampoos are ORS Aloe Shampoo (to clarify), Beautiful Textures Tangle Taming Shampoo, Crème of Nature Shampoo Detangling Conditioning Shampoo. My hair likes any shampoo with sodium laureth sulfate as it is less harsh. My deep Conditioners are Wura’s Secret Moisturising Conditioner, ORS Replenishing Conditioner, Elasta QP DPR-11+ Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Castor Oil Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Shea Butter Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Yucca & Plantain Deep Conditioner.

My Leave-Ins are Cantu Shea Butter Leave in Conditioner, Shea Moisture Castor Oil Lotion My Moisturisers are Wura’s Secret Hair Moisturiser or Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Style Milk. My scalp oil is Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil, this oil really stimulates hair growth and to seal my hair I use coconut oil which helps to keep my ends looking lovely and prevents them from breaking/splitting. My relaxers are either ORS Olive Oil No-lye Relaxer or the Crème of Nature Nourishing No-lye Relaxer

Tonkabelle3Do you have any hair goals? Have you achieved them?

My hair was relaxed bone straight now I am transitioning to texlaxed hair. My hair goals are to have fully texlaxed hair that is BSL by the end of this year. I am having a hair challenge on my blog to make sure I stay accountable to this goal.

How did you achieve your goals? How are you working to achieve them?

Have you had any setbacks? How did you bounce back? My main set back was as a result of a particular salon I kept visiting because I no longer wanted to relax my hair myself as that was getting too much for me to juggle as a working wife/mother. They always cut off any real progress I ever made after each fresh relaxer and always tried to relax my hair bone straight. My hair does not take too relaxers very well as it is coarse and so they kept doing corrective relaxers on me. The last straw was the major hair cut they gave me after my previous relaxer I then decided to never step in there again. I have also had to deal with postpartum hair loss it hit me really hard in terms of the volume/length of my hair and even my edges/hairline. I have overcome my setback by doing my last relaxer at a different salon 3 months later and everything went well (I was pleasantly surprised at how well my hair grew and I am glad I took that before picture). I am overcoming the setback my oiling my scalp daily with my Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil, washing and deep conditioning weekly or every two weeks (depending on how much time I have) and moisturizing and sealing daily or every two days.

How has your hair journey impacted other parts of your life?

My hair journey has impacted other areas of my life. I always make sure to eat a healthy diet which includes a lot of water as well as fruits and vegetables. I no longer weaves or braids anymore but will usually wear my own hair

What are your favorite protective styles? 

Some of my favourite protective styles are a full bun with my own hair, I have included pictures. I absolutely love this protective style because it is so simple to do and still gives a statement effect, especially dressed up with the right accessories. When I have more time to make the bun look even better I will add a side wept bang or a sort of swoop to it.

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What are some of your favorite products?

Some of my favourite products include the ORS Aloe Shampoo, Beautiful Textures Tangle Taming Shampoo, Wura’s Secret Moisturizing Conditioner, ORS Replenishing Conditioner, Elasta QP DPR + 11 Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Castor Oil Conditioner, Shea Moisture Shea Butter Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Yucca & Plantain Deep Conditioner. Wura’s Secret Moisturiser or Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl & Style Milk are my go to moisturizers. Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil is my ultimate staple oil for my scalp as it really helps my hair grow and I always use coconut oil to seal.

How do you deal with people who doubt you? What motivates you to keep going?

Some people may have doubted me in the past but my results have made them to even come to me for hair advice or to buy my hair products.

What advice would you give someone just starting out on their journey?

You must understand your hair, know what your hair likes and dislikes. At the beginning of your hair journey you can keep a hair diary where you write everything you do to your hair and how your hair responds this will help in knowing the particular techniques and products that work for your hair. Be patient and yet consistent. Don’t be in a hurry to try the next thing or jump on the next bandwagon. Just stick with what works for you.

If you were stranded on a deserted island, what 5 things would you wish you had?

If I were stranded on a desert island I would need my Ors Aloe Shampoo to clarify, ORS Replenishing Conditioner for the excellent slip it gives, Wura’s Secret Moisturiser for moisture, Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil to continue to boost my hair growth and as a sealant and a wide tooth comb to detangle.

What do you love most about your hair?

This question reminds me of a post I did on 10 fascinating facts about my hair. I love that my hair is thick and full. I have come to love that my hair is coarse yet it is beautiful and very versatile. I like how I can easily recreate a full bun with my hair and the other hair styles I can wear using my hair.

Where can we find you on the web?

Blog • Instagram @wurassecrethair • Twitter @wurassecrethair • Facebook


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