Transitioning Talk: The Hardest Part Is Looking Back

Gjama asks: Hi Jen, for the looks of it, it seems like your transition has been ridiculously smooth. I’ve always heard that long-term transitioning is like walking over hot coals but it’s nice to see that with the proper techniques, knowledge, tools, AND PATIENCE, having a relatively tear-free long-term transition is possible. I’ve already read all your posts on HOW you’ve done it but what I’d like to know is what’s the hardest part…. I don’t mean tangles, but like what’s been the hardest part about letting go of where your hair was — because I’ve read every since post… took me a awhile lol… and realized your hair was very healthy as the start of your transition — and where your hair is now?

Hi Gjama, great question. The hardest part of this transition has trying not to get hung up on the length and health my hair before I started my transition. I think because my hair was healthy before, it’s made me pretty impatient to hurry up and get back there. To smother my patience I try to avoid handling my hair as much as possible. The less I have to handle it, the less I compare it to how it used to be.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve fallen in love with my natural texture and it’s not the straight hair I miss, because my texlaxed hair had lots of texture so it kind of that wasn’t big emotional hurdle but there are things I definitely miss about my pre-transition hair.

I miss the easy detangle and air dry wash days!

7/4/13

I miss the length!

7/21/13

I miss how easily my hair used to straighten!

9/20/13

I even miss the roller sets I now loathe doing!

1/26/14
But I think the things I missed are missed just because it’s what I had gotten used to. I knew how my hair would react to certain styles and techniques to a tee, and now I basically have to relearn my hair. I definitely miss my length the most but length just takes time so I’ll be back there one day. I will admit though that I avoid looking at my old pics because they only make me impatient lol.

4 Comments

  1. Hey Jen,
    I am 2 months away from my 2 yrs post-relaxer anniversary. Its been very do-able so far and only getting easier! I plan to do my transitioners chop around 2 1/2-3 years post relaxer. Since November I have been using box braids and faux locs as winter protective styles. This is new for me but I am loving it. I just put on my beanie and go! They save time in the mornings and money for hair products but also keep me from becoming bored with my wash days.
    My total length is MBL and I am happy to say that about 50% is natural.
    You've been my inspiration for long time now. I was smiling when I read that you would be transitioning also. Keep up the good work, you're doing great!
    Cheers, Holland girl

  2. This post brings me back to my transitioning days. I remember entering a funny stage where I could not lean on the styles/techniques that used to work for me. That was hardest for me. I didn't always look my best during that period but I got past it and picked up new tricks along the way.

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