Transitioning Talk: Tempted to Cut

15 months & 2 weeks post relaxer
15 months & 2 weeks post relaxer

Hi there, just a bit of transitioning babble…

I started this post fully ready to tell you that I’m so over my long transition and that I’m taking my shears out of the freezer… which is where I hid them to stop me from cutting my hair. But now that I’ve calmed down, I’m still tempted to snip, snip, snip, but I’m less inclined to do it before I’m ready.

My goal is to transition two years and cut off my remaining relaxed ends June 2015… but this December is a BIG maybe. My biggest hold up is the fact that my natural hair isn’t as long as I’d like it to be before ending my transition. Right now the lowest sections (my nape) hit my shoulders. Ideally, I’d like to be BSL before cutting it all off… but unless I grow an inch a month (which I don’t) I don’t see that happening by June next year.

I’m excited about how thick my hair is growing in but man does it make it hard to look at my thinner ends. What’s really annoying is that it’s only my ends at my nape that are the problem. All my other ends are fine; it’s like my nape is forever committed to being the problem child. As of now I have zero plans to straighten/wear my hair down between now and the end because I know it’ll just make me pine for a cut. Best way to resit tempation? Don’t create the opportunity. Life lessons I tell you! Anywho, I’m going to be relying on buns, faux bobs, flexi rods, and curlformers for the next 2-8 months to both blend my textures and camouflage my ends.

On a brighter note… after sending my mother — the queen who inspired my transition — photos of my recent flexi rod and curlformer sets, she has been more excited to wear her natural hair out. She hasn’t done it yet but she’s sent me photos of her practicing at home… which is pretty big because she always washes her hair, braids it, and then dons her wigs. There is nothing wrong with wearing wigs. They are a great protective style, but I want her to feel comfortable in her own skin and love her hair enough to wear it out. We’re getting there. And I just might cry the day it happens.

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  1. You're a champ Jen, you make it look effortless at 15 months post.
    I totally get the urge to cut cos my relaxed ends look so wimpy dangling beneath my new growth. I wouldn't know what to do with short hair so I'm braving it out.
    Your hair as always looks great

  2. Don't worry Jen just hang in there, you hair looks great so nothing to worry about there, xx

  3. Hi Jen! I totally get you. It's just dang hard to keep your hands off the shears, especially when you haven't reached your goal length yet. I know some ways to make your hair grow faster though. do you do yoga? Apparently, you can do the inversion method 4 minutes every day for a week. It'll help you grow an additional inch. You and your mom are cute, btw! 🙂

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      Hi there! Yup I do. I've been practicing yoga for over a year and practice inversions 4 times a week… no increases in growth from that around these parts 🙂

  4. I had plan to transition for a year in half, but I end up big chop at the 10 month, styling became very annoying. In my eyes none of the hairstyles I was wearing look right, not even buns. I ended up big chopping at 10 months was the second best decision in my life, but I think it was because I was actually ready to big chop. I can't wait to see you completely natural.

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      Aw it's so great you're at peace with your decision, I bet your wash days were a breeze afterwards!

  5. I am having these same feelings. I really want to cut my hair. I'm excited to start playing around with my natural hair. I know that if I cut now I will be miserable especially with the short bangs I would have. So I'm gonna see how I feel in January otherwise I'll big chop in Aug like I planned.

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      I saw your 59 weeks wash day post in my reader earlier, I gotta head back over to comment, GO CANDACE!

  6. You're almost there Jen! I bet it must be so tempting to cut the ends but your curl sets always look so gorgeous and blend your ends perfectly. You can definitely hold off a teensy bit longer. It's so cute you're mum's excited to wear her natural hair out x

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      Thanks Lesley! I'll try to hold off until December. I'd instantly regret cutting if I did it now.

  7. Beautiful Post! I cackled at having your shears in the freezer. Hang in there, looking forward till you're completely natural

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      Lol! I stashed them in the freeze in a fit of frustration and then they just ended up staying there haha. Out of sight, out of mind. Thank you for your continued support! I truly appreciate it.

  8. This is a wonderful post. It's so nice to hear about your mum and your journey together! Do you have any bonelaxed ends left? Maybe cutting those would make you feel better. I am transitioning to texlaxed and the difference between the first 4" of my hair and the last 3" is horrific and makes me want to get a bob. I can only imagine how frustrating it is with such dense roots vs. length. Whatever you do, your hair's going to look amazing because you take great care of it.

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      Thanks Lam! I have maybe an inch of bone straight ends, the rest are texlaxed. Cutting the thinnest parts would definitely make me feel better… a bob sounds kind of fun!!! Hmm… new things to think about!

    2. You're totally not the only one tempted to cut around here! Everytime that I see my wet dog looking ends I'm convinced that my hair is a hot mess and has suffered severe breakage.,,,
      Then I detangle and we're back to our regularly scheduled programming! LOL.

      Find your scissors a new hiding place! You can do it chica!

      KLP | SavingOurStrands

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      "wet dog looking ends" LOL I just cackled in the library! Now I'm ugly-snort laughing trying to contain it haha.

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