Your hair is?… Relaxed (this includes texlaxed)
When and why did you start your hair journey?
I officially started my HHJ April 2013. When I went to my university in 2008, I wanted to grow my hair long. I did not want to rely on weave my entire college career. So, I got online and found some channels on YouTube that inspired me to do my own hair. I used to rely on hair stylists to handle my hair, but that was getting expensive. Also, it seemed like I didn’t have any say so with my hair under a stylist. They are the professionals; they know what they are doing. (rolls eyes, lol)
What is your current regimen?
When it comes to a regimen, I believe in simplicity. I do not over do anything. I wash my hair once a week. I start off with a prepoo. My prepoos are always warmed. They consist of a conditioner and a series of oils (jojoba, almond, castor, olive and grapeseed). I shampoo my hair if need. If my hair requires a shampoo, I normally used a diluted shampoo. Then, I will follow up with a shedding treatment or a DC. If I do not need a shampoo, I will follow up with a co-wash. I will dry my hair almost completely dry before I place my leave ins on. I relax at least every 8 weeks.
Do you have any hair goals? Have you achieved them?
My short term goal is maintain blunt ends. My long term goal is to have MBL hair. I try hard to baby my ends; that is how I keep from having to continue to trim to maintain my ends’ health. I plan on gaining more length but low manipulation styles. My hair absolutely hate being manipulated, whether wet or dry. My hair does not like to be handled period, haha!
What do you wish you knew at the start of your journey?
The word RETENTION!!! I thought I was doing everything right for so long, but I was not seeing a lot of growth at the beginning of my journey. It seems crazy, but I wish I found out about retention a lot earlier. I have only found out the definition of true retention in June 2013. Since discovering what retention really is, I have seen a significant difference.
What are your favorite protective styles?
I love my pin ups and updos. Personally, I hate buns on myself. Some ladies can wear buns wonderfully, but not me. Buns do not look feminine on me. I hate having that crease in my hair after taking one down. Pin ups are my life saver. It takes five minutes to do. I do not have to worry about creases. I do not worry about breakage. I look feminine. AND I am protecting my hair! BOW!
What do you love most about your hair?
I love the thickness of my hair. I am thankful for it. I LOVE big hair. When I air dry, I like letting the sun help. So, I walk around my neighborhood with my hair down and out. It gets big and it gets puffy. People will yell out the window, “Look at that lion!” I just laugh. Some people will stop and ask me about my hair. Some people will just stare. I love having thick hair.
How do you deal with people who doubt you? What motivates you to keep going?
I come from a family and a neighborhood who does not believe that people can grow long hair. You have to have good genetics and/or come from a mixed family. My paternal grandmother is white, but her genes have not helped me grow my hair any faster, lol. When I first started out on my HHJ and skeptics ranted, I would get so discouraged. But I looked at before and after photos and videos. That kept me motivated that I am doing right by my hair. Now, when I hear skeptics, I will hide my hair for weeks at a time. Hiding my hair seems like I am tucking my tail and running away, but what it is really doing is leaving them guessing. They will see my hair pinned all up and ask WHY DO YOU HAVE YOUR HAIR UP? DID YOU CUT IT? ARE YOU HAVING BREAKAGE? IS IT STILL YAY LONG? ARE YOU HIDING SOMETHING? I love to have them guessing. What motivates me is that I used to be WL before. My family does not believe that I can be WL or close to it again. I want to make them eat those words.
Another thing that motivates me is my mother. Some of my readers may know that I take care of my mom’s hair full time. She has a disease where hair loss is a symptom. I stay motivated to learn more to keep my mom’s head full of hair to cut down her hair breakage/loss. My mom loves swinging her hair and feeling feminine. Before my HHJ, my mom suffered with her thin, breaking hair. It made her feel pretty bad. Now, it puts a smile on my face that my mother loves her hair. My mom’s hair has came a LONG way, but I feel like her hair has even better days to see.
What is the funniest or strangest hair related experience you’ve ever had?
I always find it funny when I get scalp checked. My mom thinks it is offensive, but I am happy to let me see that my hair is my hair; maybe I prove that people can grow their hair long despite myths.
One day, I was in a store, and an older woman I knew was in there. She was in there with her grown daughter. We spoke and I thought that was going to be it. Well, as I was pushing the buggy, I noticed that me and these ladies kept ending up in the same sections. It is a small store, so it didn’t seem weird. But I caught them staring. I got a little guarded then. Not knowing what was going on, I just stood there and stared back. I was hoping that they would finally say what was going on. They told me they were building up their nerves to ask me could they feel my hair because it looked soft. So, I said no problem. Well, when they touched it, their hands went straight to my scalp. I laughed. Is it a compliment when people think your hair looks nice to where they cannot believe that it is yours? IDK! Lol!!!
Where can we find you on the web?
Please find me at my hair blog: lovingthisgirl.blogspot.com
Thank you for sharing your story with us Alexis!