“Picking Your Brain” Responses

Ashley writes…

Sorry if this question has been asked before. What are the different texlaxing methods you have tried? I want to start texlaxing because I am fed up with this thin hair of mine. I know some ladies use lye, such as urself but I have heard so many bad things about lye and i am scared of losing my hair. Have you ever tried adding oils? any advice you can give would be appreciated.

No apologies needed! Check out this post for how I texlax my hair and various other ways to telax and tips.

A reader asks:

Hi Jen!! I recently decided to start texlaxing, but I was wondering how underprocessed is TOO underprocessed? Maybe I’m just not used to the new texture, but I don’t think I left the perm on long enough. HELP!! 🙂

Hi there! How underprocessed/texlaxed hair is varies from person to person. It’s all about preference so there’s no set rule for how much texture should be retained. If you’d prefer a little less texture, you can do a corrective relaxer at least 4-6 weeks after your last touch up.

Vanessa asks:

Hi Jen, I know you get asked this a lot, but please remind me…. You’re currently going through a texlax transition, what are you doing to combat your breakage etc? I personally have bone straight ends and very thick roots, and people keep saying my hair looks so bad, due to the difference in textures and that my hair will inevitably break off. And today I noticed that there are parts in the middle of my hair that are a lot shorter than they normally are 🙁

Hi Vanessa, I’m sorry you’re experiencing breakage. It’s something we all try to avoid like the plague. Check out the this post Breakage and Texlaxing for a few methods to combat breakage while transitioning to texlaxed hair. Also, caring for area where the different textures meet – where new growth and texlaxed hair meet and where texlaxed and bone straight hair meet, is important as well. Check out these two posts Moisturizing My New Growth and Caring for Your New Growth. As for the negative-nancys, ignore them as best as you can and focus on caring for your hair. Your progress will prove them wrong.

Nicole asks:

In your hair journey did your hair reach a plateau, where it seem to stop growing, if so what did you do?

Hi Nicole, I’m sorry I haven’t hit that plateau yet.  If I did, I think I’d try use a sulfur-based oil to try and kickstart some growth.

Andrea asks:

Hi Jeni. So I wondered at what point you began to notice that you were no longer experiencing breakage? I am still struggling with this and hoping to turn it around soon.

Hi Andrea, I think it was when I realized that my hair responds more to moisture than protein. When my hair is adequately moisturized, my hair withstands manipulation better and breaks less, especially my ends and at the line of demarcation. I still do protein treatments to strengthen my hair and avoid moisture overload, and also use Organix Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage Serum on my ends, but deep conditioning with a moisturizing conditioner and moisturizing and sealing regularly has helped a lot.

Dee asks:

Hey Jeni, truly adore your hair you’ve done so well and are so inspiring to someone like me! Quick question, do you use protein shampoos, if so which ones? Also how would you know when to use, i mean I *think* I’m up on the whole moisture/protein thing but it’s so confusing as there are shampoos, conditioners and moisturizers which fall into each category, so which is best to use when? TIA 🙂

Hi Dee, aw thank you!!! The only protein shampoo I have at the moment is Organix Repairing Awapuhi Ginger shampoo. I like to use it when I haven’t done a protein treatment for a few weeks but just want a smaller dose of protein and recently decided to use it (but can’t remember if I ever did it in the past) the first wash after my relaxer.

Rana asks:

I’ve noticed you regularly use products with cones, such as the Organix Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage Serum. Have you ever had a setback or other issues from cone buildup?

Hi Rana, no I’ve never had a setback/issue from cone build up. Some silicones, like cyclomethicone are water soluble and do not cling to hair because they evaporate. Organix Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage Serum contains cyclomethicone so even when I use this every day, I thankfully do not experience cone build up. My go-to serum, Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum also contains cyclomethicone. Because I use regularly use sulfate shampoos and try to use a clarifying/chelating shampoo every month to 6 weeks, I don’t experience build up from heavier, non-water soluble cones.

A reader asks:

Hi! I just started my own hair blog and I find it really difficult to take good pictures/video of my hair. How do you do it? Thanks!

Hi there! Sometimes I use a tri-pod but 99% of the time I simply extend my arm and snap away. I position the camera at the angle and height I want to take the pic and extend my arm away from my body. Because I’m clicking blind and I can’t help but shift a bit, I have to take multiple pics to get the shot I want. For videos I record on my laptop, iPad, and occasionally my phone.

A reader asks:

Hey Jenn, your pictures are vibrant and capture great shots. I would like to know what kind of camera do you use?

Hi there, thank you! It’s a Sony NEX-3

Robyn from The Random Phoenix asks:

I’m in the same camp as you – liking my hair straight and smooth the majority of the time. However, I’ve started noticing that when I pass the 8-10weeks post mark that my breakage and shedding increase exponentially. At the same time, I don’t want to end my relaxer stretches before reaching 12 weeks as my hair in general has flourished since I started my journey in February and started doing 3 month stretches between touch ups. My hair is now the longest it’s ever been in my adult life, so it kinda freaks me out when I put a comb through my hair in the mornings and end up with a hand full of shed and broken hair. So, here’s my question – how does one MAINTAIN a straight smooth look for more than 3 days after wash day at 11 weeks post without aggravating shedding and breakage?

Hi Robyn, as I mentioned above, deep conditioning has really helped me curb breakage. Also when I’m wearing my hair straight and really want to avoid weighing my hair down, I may moisturize every other day (instead of daily) and use a smaller amount of moisturizer than normal and also concentrate the moisturizer on my ends rather than the entire length of my hair because they’re the oldest part of my hair and are prone to dryness and breakage more. I also like to use Organix Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage Serum on my hair, just few drops, when wearing it down to prevent breakage. I hope that helps!

Sarah asks:

Hello there! I was wondering, since having started steaming, have you noticed any positive effects on your scalp?

Hi Sarah, I honestly can’t say that I have. I still get itchy, dry scalp if I don’t do scalp massages with oil during the week either with my mix of coconut oil, vitamin E oil, eucalpytus, tea tree, and lavender essential oils or Hair Trigger that I used during my last stretch.

A reader asks:

Hi Jeni! I absolutely love your blog, and was super inspired to see a fellow Haitian girl grow such long beautiful hair! Right now your blog is the biggest source of inspiration for growing out my hair, but I had a couple questions:

1. Is there a reason why you stopped using the Diane mesh rollers? I noticed in your last wash you used the 2 inch plastic rollers, which I thought took a longer drying time than the mesh ones. 

2. Could you do a video showing how you cross wrap your hair at night? I’m experiencing a lack of growth on the left side of my hair and I think it’s due to continuous wrapping on one side. Thank you!!

Hi there! Thank you so much! I’m a day late but Happy Independence Day! (1) I get smoother curls with my magnetic rollers because they have a smooth finish while the mesh rollers are perforated and because the magnetic rollers are larger, I get big looser curls, which I prefer. I don’t mind trading in shorter drying time for smoother, bigger curls. (2) Here’s how I cross-wrap my hair:



  1. Dear Jen, Do you promote your blog at school? I'd like to get to a level of being shameless (got that from Maya) and just jumping out there. I know I can but there's just something at the back of my mind that holds me back. If you do promote your blog, how was it the first time you did it?

  2. Jen Jen,dis is brilliant…I'm a regular visitor,but dis is my first time of commenting. I started my HHJ late April 2012 and BC'd in November 2012..to a small 2 inches..Ever since den,I've been doing just braids,cos I don't like d look I have with d 2 inches. I plan 2 texlax later dis year,but I already texturized with a texturizer,immediately after BC'ing. My problem is,I need help with ways to style my hair or treat it ,so as to get a manageable look.. I'll be glad if I can have ur opinion on dis. Thank u darl.

  3. Do you have a alternative for the Darcy's botantical? I'm allergic to Lemongrass, but I admire the your results!

  4. Vanessa really shouldn't pay attenion to what people say… When I'm like I'd be waist length in 2016 they're like black people can't grow their hair that long !(that's how I showed your blog, haha)

  5. Always like your responses to these questions! I like these posts alot!

  6. Thanks for your response, Jeni. I am still trying to find that balance between moisture and protein. Im trying to make moisturizing and sealing regularly a big part of my regimen as well. Hopefully this will curb my breakage problems. Happy New Year and good luck on your goals for 2013! 🙂

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