I self-relaxed my hair this weekend and followed the same routine show here in my self-relaxing video. In all honesty, sometimes I feel like I do a lot on relaxer day, but hey, if it works, and it ain’t broke… .

Here are the steps I followed:
(1) I started off by parting and loosely twisting my hair into 1 inch sections.
(2) I based my scalp with Vaseline and applied CHI Silk Infusion root to tip. For months I intended to purchase silk amino acid for my relaxers but have never gotten around to it (pure laziness!). Silk proteins coats the hair to protect it from alkaline materials found in relaxers. I’ve had CHI Silk Infusion on hand so that’s what I’ve gone with.
(3) I coated my previously relaxed hair with Roux Porosity Control and then Paul Mitchell Super Charged Moisturizer. I applied the Roux PC first to close the cuticles of my already relaxed hair and decrease any potential processing due to relaxer run off.
(4) Using my usual relaxer (Organic Root Stimulator, lye formula, normal stretch) I relaxed the back half first, using my new sprush to apply the relaxer to only my new growth and then using my fingers to smooth. Application and smoothing took 11 minutes (for both halves).

Texlaxed texture
(texlaxing is purposely under-processing the hair)

(5) After rinsing out the relaxer, I did a protein treatment with Nexxus KerapHix, applying it for 5 minutes, then rinsed.
(6) I neutralized with ORS Neutralizing Shampoo, shampooing 3 times then letting it sit for 2 minutes on the last go.
(7) Once both halves were neutralized, I went on as usual, shampooing with Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Daily Shampoo, applied Redken Smooth Down Butter Treat for 5 minutes, then deep conditioned with a mix of Roux PC and ORS Replenishing Conditioner for 1 hour under my heat cap.

(8) After rinsing out the conditioner, I squeezed out the excess water, sectioned my hair into four, and applied my leave ins (Darcy’s Botanicals Daily Leave In and Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum). I applied just a small amount and detangled my hair with my Hercules Sagemann 5580 comb. Then I let my hair air dry while I watched the Olympics. I had actually planned to roller set my hair, but there was absolutely no way I was missing track and field to sit under my dryer! *Sigh* I miss running competitively. Once my hair was dry, I applied an extremely small amount of Redken Smooth Down Heat Glide. Seriously, a tiny amount, like 1/4 of a dime, maybe even smaller to each of my four sections. Then I flat ironed my hair using my Sedu Revolution 1 inch flat iron.

Let me first say that I love my sprush!! I used #TC2030 (green). It gave me much better control than simply using my fingers or a color applicator brush. The sturdy plastic made it easier to control application of the relaxer, decreasing chances of relaxer overlap. Because the plastic is only about an inch in length, I only picked up enough relaxer for my new growth. Other than that, nothing special about this relaxer touch up. I texlaxed as normal and snipped off half an inch. I personally think I have at least another inch two inches to cut off, but y’all know I don’t like drastic change so I will be trimming gradually.

I’m so freaking close to waist length. It’s safe to say I’m full mid-back length now haha. *Busts out in the electric slide, lol* Lord, please avert allllllll set backs because I’d love to hit waist length this December. Amen! I didn’t bother getting my length shirt out. Instead, I tried to show where my waist hits with a line drawn at the smallest part of my waist and with my hands.

For height reference, I’m 5’7″

What I really love is how smooth my hair came out. But this is nothing new, I love, have deep affection for, adore, smooth hair! I guess the use of a smoothing shampoo, smoothing treatment, and smoothing serum is the culprit.

I didn’t snip my bangs this time. I want to but I don’t trust myself to do it so they’ll keep growing until I amass the nerve to go to a “professional” to have my bangs shaped.

And random pics!

As always, thank you for reading!!!


  1. Do you sleep with your rollers in or do you take them out? How do you keep your curls for another day without resetting your rollers?

    1. Author

      I always take my rollers out once my hair is dry. I normal do not keep my curls for another day… but if I did, I would pin curl my hair before bed.

    1. Author

      I pretty much follow my normal routine, but I will try to do a protein treatment the wash before I touch up, but that's not set in stone, sometimes I forget to do one

  2. Wow! Wow! Wow! Congratulations! I am so inspired by you!! My goal is mid-back length and I plan to do the things you've done to achieve it. 🙂

  3. yeeey finally midback length! Well done jeni, 3 years of hard work sure do pay off, looks greatxox

  4. As always, what can I say Jeni… OPPS SHE DID IT AGAIN. Wow, I'm speechless right now . I have to check out these pics again. Psychoc

  5. Thanks for your response, Jen!
    I have another question (since you've become my personal hair guru lol) 🙂 I'm in dire need of a new hair dryer to make my roller sets dry properly without having to sit under for over 2.5 hours! I see that you use the Baby Bliss hair dryer from Sally's. What's your review on it? Would you recommend it or is there another brand that you've heard good reviews on? Thanks!

  6. aaaanw Jeni !!!!! your hair so beautiful you're a true inspiration and honestly… you're my hair crush !!!! (I don't know if i said that right but you got what I mean) haha
    Are you thinking about getting some bangs ? I could see you with that kardashian hair cut it would definitly be sexy on you!!
    It might take you forever to rollerset your hair loool good luck !!
    You just made me want to texlax my hair -_-" !!!!

    1. Author

      Thank youuu! 🙂 I haven't cut my bangs (straight across) since college, I think I want my bands to just frame my face better. It's definitely going to take forever to roller set, i'm not looking forward to it haha.

  7. Wl is right around the corner for you. Beautiful results!!

  8. Loving you and your hair at ALL lengths! Your retention game is tough!
    How long is your hair when you measure it with a measuring tape?

  9. So beautiful! I'm trying to imagine roller setting all of that hair? OMG!!!

    1. Author

      Thanks! Mee too! Which is why I'm not looking forward to it haha

  10. AMAZING growth and retention!! You will definitely be waist length before the end of the year! QUESTION: Did your hair really take of before or after self-relaxing??

    1. Author

      Thanks!!! It took off after I started self relaxing. I think becoming a complete DIYer was the best thing I've ever done for my hair. I've been able to handle my hair exactly the way I want, gentler than any stylist ever has.

    2. Thanks for answering my question. Lately I've really been considering being a DIYer but self-relaxing is very intimidating to me.

  11. SIMPLY GOR-GEOUS! I LOVE THE RESULT! Go Ahead JeniJen.. You'll definitely be Waist Length in a blink of an eye! You're such an inspiration to us ladies.. Thank you for sharing your journey with us! :o))

    1. Author

      Thank you! 🙂 It's a pleasure to share 😛

  12. Awww My hair hero!! Congrats on mid back length, you'll def make it to waist length by years end. I'm hoping for APL by years end–prayerfully we can both reach our goals. Good luck and beautiful job as always!

  13. Gorgeous!!!! Keep up the game and you'll definitely be waist length by december!
    Very inspirationnal and thanks for sharing

    1. Author

      Thank you! I hope I reach it too!
      As always, it's my pleasure 🙂

  14. Your results are beautiful as always!!

    I agree with you about the ‘In all honesty, sometimes I feel like I do a lot on relaxer day’, I feel the exact same way as it takes twice as long when relaxing it in two halves and it takes me more than an hour and a half to detangle, base, apply protection to my hair [i.e. Roux and Preservo], pre-part the 1 inch sections etc, and that’s before applying the relaxer, colour rinse and deep conditioner. I takes me the equivalent of a whole 8hr working day!!!! But despite the annoyance of the length of time it takes, I wouldn’t change the process as I am definitely seeing good results, my hair is healthier and I get a uniform finish throughout my hair without having to go to a stylist so the positives outweigh the negatives so it is well worth it in my opinion.

    Jeni, your hair has been and continues to be an inspiration for me. I am so glad I stumbled across your blog a year ago! I have no doubt that you will make it to WL by Christmas – I can’t wait to see that relaxer day video, I’m sure there will be a fair amount of hair swangin’ for us all to drool over!

    PS. I agree with Reeseycup, you could change the name of your blog cos your hair has grown already!!!

    1. PPS. Any tips on cleaning up all those darn 2 prong metal clips when you have finished your relaxer day…..?!?! It takes me AGES!

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      Thank you!!!! I takes detangling, basing, sectioning, and coating my hair takes me the longest as well! I've learned to just throw on a movie and take my time while I do it. It's my least favorite part of the day.

      I hope I make it by December! You know, I think I should have a blog name that would fit after I reached my hair goals lol!

      As for cleaning the clips, I fill an old plastic container (I use an old coffee container) with warm water, add a little neutralizing shampoo, dump my clips in the water, add the cover and shake it. Then let it sit to dissolve any bit of relaxer, Vaseline, and conditioner is stuck on my clips… easiest and simplest way I've found to clean them because I tried handwashing them and it took waaaay too long!

  15. Well d@mn, your hair is just beautiful! I'm so happy for you Jeni and I too will pray that there will be NO Setbacks for you. Also, yellow is darling color on you. 🙂
    Work it, chica!!!

    1. Author

      Aww thank you! I appreciate that! Yellow is my fav color to wear 🙂

  16. Wow! Awesome your progress is amazing! So how does it feel now to atually long hair? I can't wait for my hair to grow! I am currently at arm pit length and I discovered that by the end of next year it could between below BSL and Waist length! Yay (half an inch a month) 🙂

    1. Author

      Thanks! I can't lie, it feels great haha–I've wanted it for so darn long! But most of the time, I forget my hair is even long haha.

      Good luck on reaching BSL and WL!

  17. That is THE smoothest air dried hair I've ever seen. Definitely feeling a bit envious. I can't even get it to look that good with a blow dryer. GORGEOUS.

    1. Author

      Don't feel envious lol, my hair here is after I flat ironed it. If this were my air dried result, I'd be doing freaking cart wheels!

  18. I love your touch up results and the fact that your hair still gets straight when you run your flat iron through it. I am currently texlaxed and was thinking of transitioning to natural so i don't have to go through the stress of relaxing my hair. But at the same time, i don't like big hair and would definitely not wear mine in a fro. So now i don't know what to do with the hair anymore and its getting pretty annoying.

    I love seeing your results and knowing that there's a possibility i could have long relaxed hair. My hair was only ever long (MBL) when it was natural

    xo Stephanie

    1. Author

      I don't mind big hair so I guess texlaxed hair is the best of both worlds for me since I retain texture and my hair air dries pretty fluffy but it's easily straightened.

      Good luck with whatever route you choose!

  19. yeah baabay!!! On point!!! I love seeing long strong hair…regardless of race… I will say this though; it's gotta be mindblowing to those in ur circle as ur hair reaches new heights (blurb for the middle bottom pic lol)… Well it is time to change ur blog's name to "you done up and grown"…BAM!!!

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      You'd be surprised, no one really comments on my hair lol. Great blurb haha! Who knows, maybe after I reach WL, I'll decide for hip length and keep on growing :O haha

  20. Gorgeous! You will definitely be there by the end of the year!

  21. Your hair is beautiful. Since you're 5' 7", your hair is very very long!!

  22. omgg!!! your hair looks amazzzzinggg!!!
    congratulations Jen!
    I love how your hair is continuously striving, such an inspiration 🙂
    woop woop!!

  23. Ahh! Your journey motivates me to get my hair back where it was in high school (BSL) before I knew what BSL meant lol, before I knew how to use a flat iron, before stress made my hair fall out, & before I thought my shedding etc was normal. I went through plenty of those "once upon a time" myths too. I've already tried a couple of the techniques you use & I am happy with the progress so far. Thank you for sharing with others & not having the "crabs in a bucket" mentality.
    I am currently 12 weeks post & I'm handling it better than I thought seeing that this is my first stretch EVER! How long would you say your hair grows in between your stretches, providing no set backs?
    P.S. – At this rate I'm confident you're hitting WL by December 😉 Keep it up girl & God bless!

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      Cheers for progress!

      I'm naturally a slow grower. When I take my vitamins consistently and eat right, I get 1/2 an inch a month, without, less than 1/2 an inch a month. Between stretches I get an inch, sometimes a little more when I'm eating well, taking my vitamins and drinking water regularly.

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